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Section 4. Family and Living Psychology
Section 4. Family and Living Psychology
Gayibova Nargiza Anorbayevna, Tashkent State Pedagogical University named after Nizami, Teacher of "Practical Psychology" department E-mail: ms.gayibova@mail.ru
Influence of the sibling statuse's of teenagers on interpersonal relations
Abstract: This article is about causes that affect relationships between teenagers and peers, effect of sibling title scientifically studied, moreover, social- psychological characteristics of sibling title have shown. From research results it can be seen that, teenager's sibling title and character of sibling relationships in some ways affect in attitude towards child's peers.
Keywords: Family, teenager, sibling title, sibling relationships, first child, middle child, last child, only child, relationships among people.
Relationships between family members, such as brothers, sisters warm relationships, children understanding each other, sometimes arguing, sometimes being friendly affect formation of personality and future of person. That is why it is one of the important topics to study scientifically the factors that affect teenager's relationship between peers and sibling status.
Subject of concrete social-psychologically research on child's sibling status and dependence of his personal rate has not been experimented in Uzbekistan. From demographic point of view our country consists of families that have many children. To have two or three children is appropriate for modern Uzbek families.
For the last years, there is less usual to have many children in our country, however, for traditional Uzbek family it is not appropriate to have only one child, so we have faced some difficulties to find this kind of families for our research case. The most of the teenagers who take part in this research have sibling relationships.
In our research for the question "Which child has greater responsibility in family?", the most teenagers (except the only one child) they answered 'first child'. This shows that parents enquire the first child to do housework and others who have sibling status supports this point. Only one child in family stated 53,4% their sibling status. In our opinion, the only child in family understands that he/she has not any other siblings and this force them to do all the work themselves. It has to be
pointed that, they did not even mark the 'middle child' option. From this it can be concluded the only one child in family would not feel problems and hardships in families that have middle child. From records, the only one child in family prefers to be the only one than his peers who have siblings and they do not want others to be authoritative on him.
If there are several children in family there is a great probability of disagreements between them. In this situation to study the question of 'who do you think is the reason for arguments in family?' and the following answers show that teenagers understand their guilt in some ways. Middle children show the main reason of conflicts often their elder brother or sister. In A. Adler's opinion, middle children in family clash with elder brother or sister than the younger ones.
Relationships in family for the first child the question of 'who is the first person that tries to cease the situation?' can be seen appropriate behavior. Teenagers who are the first child answered twice as more, clearly 69,5% 'myself'. This proves that the first child is worried that his/her parents relationships getting worse, he/she has the responsibility to confront the situation and this teaches them to be more patient in front of younger siblings.
In this research to the teenage participants have been given question how are your relationships between brothers and sisters, we have result that middle children are more prone to have arguments between children.
Influence of the sibling statuse's of teenagers on interpersonal relations
Table 1. - Teenage relationships between brothers and sisters
How are your Answer options First children N-108 Middle children N-77 Younger children N-88
relationships I We always understand each other 51 46,7 59,1
between II We understand each other 12 15,6 17
brothers and III It is difficult to answer 6,5 1,3 5,7
sisters? IV There are arguments sometimes 18,5 29,9 17
V We often argue 12 6,5 1,2
From above result it can be seen that in family middle children are quite different, and from other researchers opinion their difficult behaviour affect relationship between other children. In our opinion, middle child always tries to be different, to be a leader, this may be the cause of competency.
In our research, we have used method of T. Liri and modificated option of L. Sobchik. Based on this method, from special formula there has been found two main behaviour style. As well as we have detected two main, leader and friendly. Average result has been shown in figure.
Figure 1. The teenager's personal relation of behaviour style
If we look at average results, middle children are try to be more possessive over other siblings. In our theory, they think that they are out of attention, and this makes them to be bossy over others.
From research results, the youngest children are tend to be in more friendly relationships than other siblings. They are very careful, forgetful and friendly behaviour are from parents, adults' patient relationship towards them. Of course, in this familiy's social, cultural and financial sides, qualification of parents
and their relationship with kids play an important role.
Psychological environment, relationships in family, financial status of family, social roles of parents as well as parents' and sibling relationships can be the main causes of teenager's relationships with individuals.
So, from results we can conclude that teenagers sibling status, character of relationships among family, attitude towards siblings affect his/her relations between people and his/her peers.
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